The absence of some people hurts far less than their permanence in our lives.Perhaps few people in this life can learn to wait. Most of the time, hope and despair become synonymous. Waiting for the passage of time is difficult in all areas of our lives. Then the anxiety increases and we end up running over things, which should be natural.
Today, especially, with the rapidity that technology prints in many aspects of everyday life, learning to wait is a Herculean task. We no longer have to wait for photos to be revealed, we don’t have to wait for the postman to receive messages, news is broadcast live and in color, we thaw food in minutes, music can be downloaded virtually as soon as it is released.
Rushing is part of everyone’s life, as tasks accumulate, no matter how fast we run. It is one task after another and the clock no longer gives us all the time we need. The human being already has a tendency to want immediate pleasure and, in the current context, this only makes potential. Unfortunately, some pleasures take time and this is one of the hardest lessons to learn.
No relationship is easy, be it Family, friendship, work, ,love, whatever. Two worlds meet, two visions of life and two universes, often opposite. And then all of this has to fit in the same environment, and then come the clashes, the mishaps, the dichotomies, the mismatches. If no one gives up anything, everything falls apart.
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No one can relate to the other, if only their side, their ideas, their wills prevail. You need to trim edges, you need constant dialogue and, above all, you need to put yourself in the other’s shoes. One has to see oneself with another’s eyes, because he is an important part of all this. When we relate, we are no longer alone and this requires looking outside and hearing voices other than yours.
Until both can align and get to know each other better, it is normal to have quarrels and discussions, because that’s how the boundaries are set, that’s how the truths come out. We do not show ourselves at first, that is, it is by walking together that we are becoming safer to open and to give opinions, both on contentment and discontent. Walking is that the bonds strengthen or weaken.
Walking is that we realize if the other is worth or not.
In this way, logically, people fail, make mistakes and get hurt. It will be one of the most difficult times, because we will have the understanding that the other is still knowing us and therefore still not clear what can hurt us. Our role will be to make it clear what the limits of our dignity are so that the other can adjust. It is not a question of accepting everything, but of showing your discontent, giving it a new chance if possible.
However, with the passage of time, with the limits of both already explicit and understood, disappointment will have another weight, the weight of self-love. There comes a time wories, with places. Letting go of what is bad seems simple, but it is not, simply because we cling to what hurts. Discerning between what is left and what comes out of our lives is essential so that we can suffer by appointment and then get rid of it.It is better to wait for a lifetime for someone than to find someone who will reduce to nothing all your life.
It is hard to suffer all your life for fear of the suffering of the new beginning. Hard is to neglect yourself the opportunities to write a new story. Hard is to paralyze in discomfort. Don’t be that person and focus on what is left and what is permanent. Today, dedicate yourself to the purpose of living what gives you pleasure and happiness. Thank and pray for the blessing of seeing the sun that warms and illuminates life and for the benefits of the rain that brings water , for the smiles and flowers that adorn life, thank for being alive, with a family that embraces you with love, for the new day which woke to be lived with peace, Love and joy and for the Absence and permanence of certain people in your life.
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