umans have this tendency of complaining about each and every thing in spite of all the blessings we have been endowed with. There are times when we complain without even realizing it. Researchers say the average person complains 30 times a day. But there are also people who never complain. Though their life is no different, they perceive themselves happy. Also, a 1996 Stanford study suggests it’s time to stop. Complaining, or even being complained to, for 30 minutes or more can physically damage the brain. Robin Kowalski, a professor of psychology at Clemson University says “We all have done it! Whether it’s about traffic, our boss or our partner’s annoying habits, complaining is just something we do like breathing though hopefully not as often.” Often what leads us to depression is ruminating on negative feelings and constantly reinforcing this behaviour by discussing with people. Complaining eventually alienates us from people around us and takes a heavy toll on our mental and physical health.
We need to change our ideology to remain positive. Very often we tend to see the thorns in the rose bush rather than to feel the beauty of roses in it. At the same time we can allow ourselves to vent our heart out every once in a while but we should check that we aren’t going towards extremities. We can practice yoga and train ourselves to be less judgemental. Stopping for a minute and appreciating things in our life or making a list of things we are grateful for can also help a lot. The huge step we can take is that we ourselves have to be the change we wish to see in others. Some researchers also say that complaining has some benefits and can be a way to relieve stress in small doses. But complaining excess is obviously an ineffective solution. Before we complain, we have a choice. We can choose to learn and focus on how the situation can change us for the better. We can practise gratitude and let go of past regrets and hurts as they are of no benefit to our present life.