t was all started by Punjabis in South-Asia. Punjabis on both sides of the border hosted massive weddings where banquets were made for thousands of men, the decoration gave the houses the look of palaces and women wore gaudy, expensive attire. Slowly this trend was picked up by other regions in south Asia and regrettably Kashmir proved to be no exception.
Weddings in Kashmir have gone a sea change. People across the social spectrum spend a great deal on the weddings. They say a Kashmiri earns all his life to meet two ends-Marriages of children and home. Money is saved for years and years just to put up a grand show on the day of weddings. Things have come to come to such a pass when a prospective marriage gets broken down because the girl’s family did not buy bakery from a renowned bakery outlet.
Every brand, every makeup artist, every cook and every singer is sacrosanct in Kashmiri marriages. If you hire the next in line then people start bad mouthing against you. People are imitating each other in innovations as if it is some kind of a great virtue. If someone acts as a rebel and does not toe the line he is talk of the town-people talk about him on shop fronts, on roadside, in other weddings and everywhere they find a chance to talk about it.
Can the crippling economy of Kashmir afford such massively attended expensive weddings? Why are so indulgent when it comes to the wedding day of our relatives? Why cannot all this be done so simply?
Above all, every religion teaches simplicity to be a virtue. If we observe around us, there are so many poor people or educated men with no job to do. There are definitely many thousands of women who cannot afford to marry. Why cannot all this money be diverted to these noble causes? There was this Guest-control order in place for some time. Where has it disappeared all of a sudden? Besides, government can do us a favor by checking how much tax these people actually pay who can spend so much on the wedding of their children. Is it all white money?