aving an affair is much easier than in the past, and social media sites have been implicated in many affairs and divorces. Internet infidelity is still cheating, even if the two people never met face to face. There are a lot of people in our rapidly going materialistic society who are not happy with the one they have married and they chose and they chose physical and emotional intimacy with another partner as a route to ultimate happiness. Until recently, men in India could prosecute other men for having an affair with their wives and could also be prosecuted for conniving in the same. Over two years after the decriminalization of adultery, women seem to be closing the so-called “indelity gap” with men. A recent survey has found that several more and more women in India were opting for extramarital relationships and that a majority of them were mothers. People who were talking about it in calibrated whispers till yesterday are becoming more vocal now as the disease is spreading fast.
While studies have traditionally found men to be the more adulterous in a heterosexual married relationship, new studies suggest that women are increasingly accepting of having indulged in extramarital relations. Couples therapist Tammy Nelson, author of ‘When You’re the One Who Cheats’, says that women might not only be cheating more but also getting away with it more often. The thing is that extra-marital affairs happen because of unhappy marriages. There is a tendency among the parents to marry off their children for status, money and societal image. People never truly ask their children what they truly want. Besides, the financial independence of partners, late marriages and bloated egos are some of the primary reasons for extra-marital affairs.
The clerics and Muhalla committees must organize counseling sessions highlighting the fact that fidelity is a core concept of our society. Any kind of deviation from this norm should be given a punishment that discourages others from indulging in such acts-a social boycott or something like that. It has also been observed in some cases that some married people use their power and status to force a sub-ordinate worker to have an extra-marital affair with them. Such people not only should be socially boycotted but strict punishment should be given to them. Extramarital affairs are neither surprising nor new. What, however, is significant now is the changing nature of adultery itself. It is no longer necessarily a hush-hush thing — ‘Life is short, have an affair’, says the Ashley Madison website succinctly, and obviously many Indians have taken that advice.