T err is human, to forgive divine”, Forgiveness is often defined as an individual, voluntary internal process of letting go of feelings and thoughts of resentment, bitterness, anger, and the need for vengeance and retribution toward someone who we believe has wronged us, including ourselves. Forgiveness is a choice one makes over and over again. It can be a fresh perspective or a healthy distance; like a quiet room with a view onto the world of complexity and conflict. Forgiveness can be a gift to yourself or to others, it may be something you receive, but it can also be a quality that describes a relationship where one must be capable of self-forgiveness in order to forgive others. Forgiveness is strong medicine for this. When life hits us hard, there is nothing as effective as forgiveness for healing deep wounds.
Forgiving will not change your past, but it will change your future. Forgiving is one of the most useful tools we have as human beings and is a fundamental part of our relationships, including those we carry with us. Always at some point in our lives we are exposed to situations that require us to forgive or be forgiven, not Knowing how to forgive makes us vulnerable to life, overwhelming us with suffering, guilt, resentment, anger and endless feelings and emotions that are not beneficial for us. Many people refuse to forgive, because they think that with this, they are giving the other person a reason to keep making mistakes, their reasons, discomfort or suffering are not few justifications! They think that they are empowering them and that they will be exposed to live the same again at some point. The relationship with the other person is forced to be as before, and weakness is a sign of strength.
Whoever knows how to forgive is in possession of the best option, and whoever best uses their forgiveness for personal gain, lives more freely than those who still cannot forgive. Getting rid of attachments, negative feelings, past situations that can hurt again and again, is what promises us a sincere forgiveness. Forgiveness heals our wounds, heals our hearts, is comforting and liberating. It is the simplest way to take control of a situation that creates pain and, in turn, it is a direct path to our well-being. Forgive everyone and forgive yourself! There is no greater deliverance than forgiveness; There is nothing like living without enemies. Nothing worse for the head and, therefore, for the body than fear, guilt, resentment and criticism (exhausting and vain task), which makes you judged and an accomplice in what you don’t like.
The pain that the absence of forgiveness generated in the person processes is much greater than one might think. If we think that, by forgiving, we will be doing the greatest good for us, that we will be the greatest beneficiaries in this situation, it is the best way to get rid of the pains that accompany us. It is easier for us to move forward without the weight we carry, than to continue hurting because we do not forgive. We release these bonds, we understand that forgiving makes us bigger, wiser and not enough to just say “I forgive you” or “I forgive you”, but it helps a sincere will, when we have to work consciously and unconsciously to release that burden. We must change the way we see things, our thoughts and beliefs! We must be understanding, compassionate, thinking that everyone does the best they can with the resources they have. We are all prone to hurt, to make mistakes, to ignore or to generate any kind of suffering with or without intention. Life is very dynamic and we don’t know what role we have to play tomorrow.
Forgiving definitely will not change what happened, we must accept, because we cannot do anything about the past, but forgiving, definitely, will make our future much better, make us bigger as human beings, more sensitive, noble and above all happier. Do not think anymore, if there is someone who requires your forgiveness, grant it, it is a check that you will deliver, but that will be deposited in your account.
I am saying here loudly that Nothing in life is impossible. it may be unlikely, but never impossible. don’t waste any chance and don’t give up anything, without before trying. The attempt and the mistake are learnings, So always try and run after your dreams. Fight without fear and go in search of the happiness that is within you. Don’t allow fear to take your strength and make you give up. Run and fight for Your ideals!! Today, everything is special, even with social distancing, live the strength of LOVE and PEACE that comes from Allah swt as a gift. Provides strength that rejoices us, makes us smile, dream and believe in the Greater Good!. Embrace the joy and sweetness of life. Use creativity to live through every moment of this beautiful day and make it even more special, with tranquility and lightness of mind, even in a virtual way!!… hugs were only delayed, by This, let Allah swt Involve you, embrace you and fill your heart with Peace, Happiness and Hope, that everything will pass and the time to embrace who we love will come!!
Do not waste your time and effort with negativities . Be aware of the qualities you have and enlighten yourself. When you turn on your light, the darkness around you disappears. Reminder is there for everyone which says ” Forgive everyone not because they deserve but for the attainment of your peace of mind “. And Forgiveness is the best virtue as our Religion (Islam) pays much more importance to it.
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