• By: Malik Suhail Gulal
In life, the greetings of restlessness, meeting with miseries and talking to instability of mind is all we have in its comfort zone. Nevertheless, having them with us is as common as taking meals. They are our guests and we are the hosts. While taking care of them, we have forgotten ourselves. We feel that we are busy without being busy, we can’t do anything. We have no protocol to follow like what and how to do. We are diverted from our own self as if we never existed.
Moreover, these guests have their children along with them. Their children are depression, anxiety, insomnia and many other playing in every counter-yard happily. Our hospitalities are worth mentioning but who would dare to say good- bye to these mean and unloving guests? Would you? If yes, it would be better for your own life as over caring and loving make you salve. Let us dare to throw them out of our homes.
With them, every day is a new suffering and ever night becomes more suffocating. So, we may be sunk in helplessness but are survived by a hope- the only thing on every hearts beats and every tired body moves on. Leah Walesa says, “It is hardly possible to build anything if frustration, bitterness and a mood of helplessness prevail”.
However, I believe, possibilities never lead to impossibilities and vice versa. Same thing happens with helplessness and hope. Helplessness can bind us but can’t mend us completely but a strong hope leads us where that we haven’t imagined yet though if it dies, there is no surviving left.
Therefore, Helplessness is despair and Hopelessness is a death and now, ball is in your court.
Indeed, life is not a bed of roses yet it will keep you checking your mettle. It’s real test of your behavior towards it. Your patience,
perseverance, dedication and your ability of distinguishing chalk from cheese is timelessly assessed by it. Although who doesn’t want to sleep well under the peaceful quilt of life while keeping one’s head on bolster of privilege but at the same time, acceptance of its changing colors is what we have believed in.
Life is a destiny to be destined. So, during your journey to your destination, sufferings can come to see you. A sad reality everyone has to face and accept. Presently, we are all in clutches of tough times. We have a same story to tell. But unfortunately, ignorance is guiding us with our pure permission that’s what we are striving with. “Ignorance is the best road for sufferings to travel and more surprising thing about it is we give them a ride in our own possible ways.”
Seriously, we need to be more patient, sensible and serious about what matters the most. The end of life is in the hands of Allah but we must do our best when it comes to handling and caring it. Wandering without reasons can mend you completely or it will add to the number of miseries. I know, it has been a long duration since we have been watching the walls of our rooms and having same routines that leads one to sleep next to boredom. Aren’t we helpless enough? Indeed, we are! But it will vanish like a wind hopefully. Most possibly, there may be so many things in your life yet to be explored. So, let’s make ourselves busy in doing so.
Please have some more patience so that we will win this war too. Busy yourself, find peace in doing new little things. Brain Weiss says, “Inner peace is impossible without patience. Wisdom requires patience. Spiritual growth implies the mastery of patience. Patience allows the unfolding of destiny to proceed at its won unhurried pace.”
These sufferings are nothing when you have the abilities to defeat them at the same time; they are irritating cum suffocating when it is their turn but your abilities to move on no matter what leads them to death with it to hell and you to your destination. Let yourself be the king and let these sufferings on your prey. If you hunt them by your power of patience, courage to move on and faith that laces them in her cage, you need not then to utilize your full abilities rather they will die of suicide. Fearing them rather than facing can be a dangerous thing as fear dimishes faith in you and when faith is less, you are close to death no matter you have breathes to survive.
And now, if you are regretting over something like this, if it wouldn’t have happened I would have done this and that. But no, it’s a sin, note it. Allah’s plans are always better and let’s trust them. “Regrets have no ways to go and they have no destiny to suggest you.” All can we do is to have faith in Allah rather than cursing our fate. “You can’t blame fate for tough times as a believer, you have faith, and it’s victorious and incomparable power, the road to success.” Life is meant to be saved if you are capable of doing so and rest leave in the hands of Allah but make sure you trust from bottom of heart and buffer each word you mean. Let’s be honest, turn to goodness as in goodness, there is forgiveness and He loves to forgive.
I know, it’s easy to say but hard to do but we must have to be always practical and when it matters the most. Please take care of yourself. You don’t know that your ignorance can shave other heads too. And yes, kindly stop over-thinking and regretting as these can be the stranger guests in your home to create mess that makes dead your physical and mental well-being. Let’s hope for the best, faith that it’s going to end soon, work with sensibility keeping in mind that some serious responsibilities give you more opportunities and patience is the a thing that adds to faith and faith itself is a mother all these things.
At last I would love to quote here words of Orson F. Whitney, “ No pain that we suffer, no trial that we experience is wasted. It ministers to our education, to the development of such qualities as patience, faith, fortitude and humility. All that we suffer and all that we endure, especially when we endure it patiently, builds up our characters, purifies our hearts, expands our souls, and makes us more tender and charitable, more worthy to be called the children of God . . . and it is through sorrow and suffering, toil and tribulation, that we gain the education that we come here to acquire and which will make us more like our Father and Mother in heaven.”
Author is pursuing B.A. Honours in Political Science at CUS. He can be contacted at email@example.com