eek inner balance so that you are no longer bothered by the criticisms they make about your life. So that you don’t puff yourself up with compliments or sadden with judgments. You will always be what you are not what they think and speak about you. Are you aware of your imaginations, dreams, intuitions, memories, reality, or do they all seem to confuse your daily life even more? Thousands of people go through life without much questioning. It may even seem more comfortable to go through life without much thought. For many analyzing their attitudes and behavior would be like fixing a raspberry.
Those who live only in pursuit of basic and primary needs, such as money, food and work, care about what to say, do and/or have, but rarely manage to be. Some live only to spend what they earn, not worrying about a life of greater meaning. They are those people we meet after years and everything remains the same. They may even have achieved some material good, but there was no evolution, transmutation or inner growth. Frailty is often confused with weakness, But being fragile is very different from being weak.
The first means being able to experience noble feelings, but not having the courage to live them for various reasons. Fragile people usually create a kind of “armor” with the purpose of not suffering anymore and by no one else. But weak people are dangerous people who, afraid of facing everyday situations, put on the other the sins they should bear. We are all fragile by nature. We fear losing the lives of those we love, we cry in necessary (and unnecessary) farewells, and we despair when they take us out of our comfort zone. However, involved in fear, we often fail to value the essential and forget what really matters.
The reflections are more evident in two moments of the work. The first when the protagonist is face to face with death, when it is to be hanged and this is enough to lead him to reflect on everything he had done in life until then. The second moment happens when, at the last moment, the authorities change the capital punishment to prison. Facing the situation, the protagonist realizes that he has gained a second chance at life and begins to see it in another way. Everything will be Our own. We will transform every minute into so many eternities. We will not waste a second. We will count every minute that goes by without wasting a single one. “In a literary way, Philosophers lead us to reflect on how vulnerability and human fragility reflect in our behavior. Why do we expect loss to value love? Why do we expect disease to enhance health? Why do we expect absence to appreciate the presence? Difficult questions, worse answers. I believe that most of them are within ourselves, since we are reflections of what we believe and what we hold hostage to what we do.
In the world we live in, it is still very normal to find people attached to the past and not willing to change their affective life. As a result, they live chained to a relationships and losses , they regret it when they come to an end, because they are not sure they will find something and someone better in the future. Imagine how much harm people do to themselves when they are in a highly toxic relationship Or in a great loss. When they don’t accept that the best thing for themselves and for the other is separation.
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After all, if there is no love, friendship and companionship, what else can there be between a couple? Wouldn’t it be better if there were more detachment from ideas, fears and needs to choose our partner for a lifetime? Letting go of the past is giving up something good that happened. But above all, it is necessary to live in the present the freedom to be happy, far from prisons that bring no more benefits than inner peace. Life requires courage, but it also requires perception. It is necessary to see beyond the obvious, to appreciate the present day and to be grateful for the small (which become great) blessings. If it is true that we are fragile by nature, it is also true that we are strong by choice. There is something very powerful about believing.
The intensity of strength we put in our determination is invisible and powerful. Storms of courage, with fogs of faith, spatter of confidence. Huge waves of hope. The answer is firmness, overcoming. We are what we choose to be, Better to be the fight than the lamentation. Glory days at the end of the journey will always come. Loss and Separation is not the end of the line, the end is accepting to live unhappy. Don’t think that your life came to an end because you lost your life . It is not a tragedy to separate, tragedy is to accept to live unhappily and feel that your happiness is slowly dying.
Knowing that you do your best to be happy is making sure that nothing can take the place of true love, pure and full of harmony between your peers. So why do you still insist on muzzling yourself and doing yourself harm, instead of opening up to the new? If you have doubts about what is going on with you, if your relationship is really hanging by a thread held only by values outside of love, ask yourself. Do you feel like you are holding someone to you because of your whims? If any of your answers were positive, reflect more on the matter and find out if it’s really worth it to close this cycle and start a new life.
The answer is within you. To learn to control our behaviors, desires and actions, we have to understand and analyze them. As long as we are unable to exert any control over our emotions, we will be strangers to ourselves, unable to influence the world around us because we are out of touch with our own inner reality. To achieve inner balance, start by doing two things:1- Think about the things you liked to do and don’t do anymore.2 – Write down everything that comes to mind and allow yourself to feel the sensations that will come. Do not be afraid. Self-knowledge exercises will give you a greater understanding of yourself, and will help you understand the origins of many of your behaviors. But, if you don’t feel safe to do this alone, ask for help at direct to Sajad ul Hassan (my mail id will be available below the column), I can help you on this path of self-knowledge and inner healing.
The greatest achievement is the one we obtain on our own merits, however, many do not allow themselves to go in search of this achievement. There are not only material and loving achievements, there are even more important achievements, such as the achievement of being better, more capable and being accepted, above all, by ourselves.
When we are able to look at ourselves in the mirror, see our mirror image and feel what is really inside of us, without having to look away, we will certainly be on the path of inner growth. And from there, we realized that nothing that bothered us and made us suffer is of such importance, and we began to give more meaning to our lives through our inner change. When we change, everything changes. And our life really starts.
Author is a regular Columnist with Good Morning Kashmir from Pattan. He can be mailed at firstname.lastname@example.org